THERAPY FOR MEN’S ISSUES IN NYC
You're Always Thinking.
Always Doing.
Always Fixing.
And yet, what if you let somebody else in? What if you allowed somebody to support you? What if others saw the full, unfiltered version of you, instead of just that finely crafted exterior or the ways you take care of everyone else?
The category of “men’s issues” is a bit confusing. It includes issues that are (obviously) specific to men, such as fatherhood, masculinity, or expectations of being a man.
And it also includes things that aren’t necessarily exclusive to men, but are better understood through the lens of how you experience them as a man. Anyone can go through financial anxiety, intimacy issues, or low self-esteem, but as a man, they may impact you differently than how they would impact a woman.
You’ve grown used to handling things on your own, pushing through discomfort, and keeping stress, frustration, and sadness buried deep down. But lately, it’s not working as well as it used to. You're loath to admit it, but you know that something has to change before it bites you in the ass.
Therapy is where we break that pattern.
Therapy is a space to step outside the script of how you’re supposed to handle things and address what’s actually going on beneath the surface.
What are "men's issues," exactly?
Why Men's Issues Matter
Acknowledging men’s issues doesn’t mean ignoring or diminishing the challenges women face. It means recognizing that men also experience unique struggles that deserve attention. In a society that historically hasn’t encouraged men to open up, it can feel so uncomfortable to talk about what’s weighing on you. But not talking about it doesn’t make it go away.
Culturally, men are expected to be providers, problem-solvers, and protectors. They’re rewarded for independence and stoicism, but not for vulnerability or self-reflection. We all know what this leads to: bottled-up emotions, difficulty connecting with others, and unhealthy coping mechanisms.
At the same time, we also live in a system that grants men certain privileges, making discussions around masculinity and emotional struggles even more complex. It can feel awkward to acknowledge the pressures of masculinity while knowing you have certain social advantages. But when men (and society as a whole) acknowledge the swirl of pressures masculinity creates and deal with them head-on, it leads to more personal growth, healthier relationships, and stronger communities.
Kinds of Men’s Issues
While no two people experience the same issues in the same way, there are a few broad categories of challenges that most men can identify with. In therapy, we’ll explore each of these categories, see how they’re impacting you, and work together to break free from avoidance patterns that keep you from facing issues head-on.
Managing Emotions and Stress
Emotions are complicated because, by definition, they don’t follow logic. Many men identify as practical, solutions-oriented people (perhaps due to societal expectations of being protectors and breadwinners) and this sometimes butts heads with understanding our emotional sides.
When something happens and you find yourself confused about why you feel the way you do, it’s often a sign to look inward instead of rushing to fix what’s happening around you.
Trouble Communicating
If you’re not sure what you’re feeling and why, you’re definitely not going to be able to tell somebody else what’s going on. And just because you can push forward without letting anyone else in, that doesn’t mean you should. That will just leave you feeling more isolated and misunderstood.
Communicating what you want and need allows other people to see you as you see yourself. You’ll build stronger, more authentic connections with friends, family, coworkers, and partners and feel less resentment overall.
Navigating Dating and Relationships
Oftentimes, we have the most trouble connecting with the people we feel closest to. Whether you’re trying to figure out if your significant other is “the one,” dealing with the loss of a breakup, or feeling discouraged after going on an endless string of unsuccessful first dates, self-reflection can help you gain clarity on those ties holding you back.
By better understanding yourself, you can better understand how others experience you, whether it’s in a conversation or a lifetime together.
Addressing Anger and Aggression
Anger is usually one of the few emotions that’s actually “acceptable” to show as a man. This cuts down the entire range of emotional expression to only those feelings that allow us to stay within the predefined boundaries of masculinity.
Since anger and aggression are the most accessible feelings, they can become a default way of expressing yourself. But in reality, they’re only masking the much more complicated, subtle feelings inside of you.
What Growth Looks Like
You might still feel certain pressures around masculinity (we do live in a patriarchal society, after all), but the difference is that it doesn't create the same resentment it used to. Yes, maybe you're still the breadwinner. Maybe you still have friends who tell you to "man up."
But now, you can recognize what you're feeling, express it clearly, speak up when it matters, and manage your stress in healthy ways, instead of shoving it down or pretending it doesn't matter.
Therapy can make life clearer. It helps you understand yourself, break unhelpful patterns, and move through the world with more confidence and authenticity.
We Specialize in Therapy for Men’s Issues in NYC and Across New York State
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How long should I expect to be in therapy?
To put a concrete number to this question, we typically work with people who are ready to commit to therapy for at least six months. Usually, clients choose to continue beyond their original issue and use therapy for ongoing self-exploration and growth.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you. There’s no contract that forces you to stay, and we certainly won’t try to keep you here if you don’t seem to be getting anything out of it.
Therapy is a gift you give yourself. At any point, you can take an exit ramp when you’re ready to get off the highway. You can always get back on down the road.
How long should I expect to be in therapy?
What’s the “work” involved in therapy?
You’ve probably come across phrases like “doing the work” and “process what happened” while looking for a therapist, but what do they actually mean?
If you want to see real growth, you can't just go through the motions. The “work” is actively engaging in looking inwards, questioning established ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving, and being curious about yourself.
The “work” is also letting somebody else in and allowing them to really get to know you–every part of you, including those parts that you might tend to avoid acknowledging yourself.
The “work” is also about doing things that are unfamiliar or downright terrifying. That could be sitting with uncomfortable emotions instead of pushing them away, or practicing new ways of communicating and setting boundaries. Or maybe trying new coping tools outside of therapy that seem childish or stupid, but if you actually lean into them, could change everything for you.
What’s the “work” involved in therapy?
I’m not sure what’s wrong, I just know that something is off. Can therapy still help?
I’m not sure what’s wrong, I just know that something is off. Can therapy still help?
Is talking about men’s issues just reinforcing gender stereotypes?
At its core, therapy for men's issues is about examining how modern expectations of masculinity shape how men think, feel, and show up in the world. Therapy is a space to question the messages you've absorbed about masculinity and how they have affected you.
Is talking about men’s issues just reinforcing gender stereotypes?
Other Areas We Specialize In
Therapy can help you build stronger connections with romantic partners through a better understanding of who you are and what you need in a relationship.
Dating and Relationships
Since men are often conditioned to suppress their emotions, it makes honest communication and boundary-setting especially difficult. Therapy can help break this cycle so you can express yourself clearly, set firm (and healthy) limits, and navigate your relationships with authenticity.
Communication and Boundaries
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